Human beings have evolved over years and so has ‘love’. Many of us today are critical of the whole concept of love! Most of us talk about the love in previous generations and glamorize it by calling it the ‘true’ love, the ‘ideal’ one. But here’s my question to them, have you even lived or experienced the love of that generation to having been commenting on it at the first place. I’d agree if you say that love has been more intense and true in those times as people held words more important than life itself. The value that the words had at that time is evident in the perseverance of the relationships by the people of that generation. But what those times lacked is the expression of love. Love existed but was never expressed. Though one felt love, it would get limited to the feeling. The society then was lot more stiffly in nature and thus constricting the free expression of a being. But thanks to the law of time, it is not stagnant and flows even faster than the river. A famous quote goes like this- That which does not change does not grow and that which does not grow, dies! Love has grown past time. Love which was like the radio before has now turned into the I-pod of today. From shying away to the confident deep gaze in each other’s eyes; from meeting in seclusion to the meetings amidst the people; from plucked roses to the customised expensive bouquets; from longing for a letter to the instant message services. Love has become extraordinary with creativity in its act of expression. Giving a chocolate, calling an old friend, lending a shoulder to rest upon, clasping the hands to avoid from trembling, giving a warm hug when much needed, texting across a morning wish, sharing the craziest 3 am dream, preserving the chocolate wrapper given by a dear one, to know things unsaid, to understand the smile behind the tears, to call when anticipated, and it goes on and on...more than the love itself it is the act of love which makes it beautiful. These li’l expressions together add to a larger meaning of love! In the rush of life today, where one does not find time for personal sharing of emotions, these act as the easy channel for the deepest feelings to travel through from one heart to the other.
In the course of innovation, love is being materialized and taken for granted. One must not compromise on their feelings for these material gains. What a smile could do in the past is now done by a bunch of red roses. The expression of love is just void without true love in a heart just like the flowers that loses its essence without its fragrance. One needs to feel before he expresses. And one needs to express once he feels. Both are as important as the bottle and its cap! Along with the showing aspect, knowing aspect becomes equally important. Show it for them to know it.
If love was true and ideal in those times then why were the highest numbers of wars fought in that era? Love in that generation remained behind walls but now it’s out in the open. The world is far more peaceful than it was and this is only because the people today are more loving in nature than they were. We have understood the necessity of love in life and hence wish to love and be loved. Though not forgetting the fact that love today is being tainted by possessiveness, jealousy, ego, insecurity, and dominance and most important of all, expectations! Expectations spoil the game of love. When expectations are low, the magic happens. Love the person selflessly is what can be advised. One should think of their deeds and not of their needs. Once you break out of your narrow pessimist mind the only optimistic thing you’ll find is love.
Love is in the living and the non-living! Love is in the candle that stands melting itself in the dark, love is in the key unlocking its lock, love is in the embroidery intricately woven along the cloth, love is in the needle which longs for completeness without its thread, love is in the river longing to meet the sea, love is in the smile that lightens a face, love is in the bright yellow of a sunflower... Love is here! Love is everywhere! Do not ‘fall in love’, instead, ‘rise in love’!!!
The above piece of writing is a result of a conversation with a friend who happens to be my guide and philosopher. This writing would be incomplete without my acknowledgement towards him! Thank you!
The above piece of writing is a result of a conversation with a friend who happens to be my guide and philosopher. This writing would be incomplete without my acknowledgement towards him! Thank you!
